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Five Times Denial is Good for You

If you deny a self-destructive habit, you could cause serious harm to yourself or others. Drunk driving would be a classic example. But in other situations, denial can be good for you. When is denial damaging, and when it it healthy? Continue reading

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Not Really Yours

Recognizing that we don’t own our feelings can be intensely liberating. Feelings come from somewhere. They are a reaction to something, but they are not our property. My usual reaction to the world’s problems is sadness or melancholy. The sadness is real, but it is not mine. Focusing on sadness is just a habit I’ve picked up. Nothing bad will happen to me or anyone else if I put it down for a while. Continue reading

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Everyone on Earth

Three things you might not know about the people you share this world with: 1. Everyone on Earth is here to entertain you. Enjoy the show. 2. Everyone on Earth is here to teach you something. Pay attention. 3. Everyone … Continue reading

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The Story of Your Life

Say you are a movie director shooting a film of your own life. How do you see the story unfolding? Is it a biopic, perhaps starting when your parents got together, and ending with a touching funeral?  Do you star … Continue reading

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Weekend in Nirvana

Why wait until you die to go to Heaven? It just might be all around you right now.  Many people claim to have gone to places of wholeness, love, and safety, where there is no fear, no separation from the … Continue reading

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Life and Death are Relative

As we do about once a year, Aisha and I were watching ducks in a small lake in Golden Gate Park, across the road from a stand of redwood trees. The mallards with their gorgeous green heads, the black and … Continue reading

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Not Fearing Death

When I worked at Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco, I had an 82 year old cardiac patient named Wilson.  First name Mel, but he preferred just “Wilson.” He was one of those classic crotchety old guys, wrinkled, with a … Continue reading

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