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Category Archives: healing
Five Times Denial is Good for You
If you deny a self-destructive habit, you could cause serious harm to yourself or others. Drunk driving would be a classic example. But in other situations, denial can be good for you. When is denial damaging, and when it it healthy? Continue reading
Posted in healing, Uncategorized
Tagged chronic illnss, climate change, death, denial, grief
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The Animals Are Trying to Save Us
In one celebrated case from Ethiopia, a pride of lions came across a group of men who had kidnapped a teenage girl, possibly for sale in the sex trade.. The lions ran the men off and sat around the girl until people came to find her. Then they quickly left. What explains their behavior? What can we learn from them about ourselves? Continue reading
Posted in happiness, healing, Reasons to Live, Uncategorized
Tagged acceptance, animals, Balaam, Benvenuti, dolphins, happiness
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The Things We Do For Control
At the personal, social or international level, our sense of being separate individuals adrift in an uncaring world drives us to seek control, when what we usually need is connection. Continue reading
Posted in healing, Uncategorized
Tagged anxiety, bankers, control, cooperation, courage, doctors, Eisenstein, Israel, money, police, psychology, Sacred Economics, war
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Life Imitates Facebook
Good and bad; it’s all on the Internet. Whatever you ’re drawn to, whatever you respond to or like, the programs will send you more of. The things you click on, you will receive over and over. If you respond to posts that make you feel bad, you create more opportunities to feel bad. Is life like that, or isn’t it? Continue reading
Posted in happiness, healing, miracles, Uncategorized
Tagged AA, advertising, Facebook, Internet, Law of Attraction
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Don’t Ask Why
Most times, “why” doesn’t matter. There’s nothing we can do about what has already happened. Why did your company downsize your job? Why did I get multiple sclerosis? I can wonder, but what difference does it make? The point is deciding what to do now. Continue reading
Posted in happiness, healing, Reasons to Live
Tagged acceptance, climate change, emotions, happiness, living fully
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The Metropolis Within
There is more going on in your body at this very moment than in all of downtown Tokyo at rush hour. Continue reading
You Are Loved
If you’re like most people, you have no idea how much you are loved. But you are, and I can prove it. Continue reading
Posted in healing, Reasons to Live, Uncategorized
Tagged agape, Gary Chapman, gifts, Lori Deschene, love, phileo, service, sex, touch
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Come Home to Your Body
Why don’t we spend more time in our bodies? Life has lots of ways to separate us, to send us on long trips into worlds of thought, emotion, or pure distraction, trips from which we may never come bac.k Continue reading
Posted in healing, Reasons to Live
Tagged body, body awareness, breathing, grief, Health at Every Size, meditation, mindfulness, Sufism
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Not Really Yours
Recognizing that we don’t own our feelings can be intensely liberating. Feelings come from somewhere. They are a reaction to something, but they are not our property. My usual reaction to the world’s problems is sadness or melancholy. The sadness is real, but it is not mine. Focusing on sadness is just a habit I’ve picked up. Nothing bad will happen to me or anyone else if I put it down for a while. Continue reading
Posted in healing, Reasons to Live, Self-Care Support
Tagged acceptance, death, Endowment effect, living fully, relationships, Sufism
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