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One Positive Thing
Mental illness can feel like a life sentence in solitary confinement, without possibility of parole. There’s just no point. But even in the most hopeless lives, having just one positive thing to do, one activity to focus on, can change … Continue reading
Help Without Helping
Lao Tzu says, “Teach without talking.” I had a teacher like that once, who showed me the meaning of support. This teacher was different from others I have had, in that it was green and didn’t move much, let alone … Continue reading
Help When You Least Expect It
Help is out there, often in unlikely places. One afternoon, I was riding a MUNI bus through a working-class San Francisco neighborhood. Seated across from me was a group of young African-American men, dressed mostly in sweat clothes with basketball … Continue reading
Strange Survival Stories
Inspiration is taking the week off. (I think she went skiing at Lake Tahoe with Hope.) Instead, I’ve got two stories of people surviving for unusual reasons. If they’re too quirky for you, come back in a couple of weeks. … Continue reading
We’re All Role Models on This Bus
My friend Cesar works with homeless and troubled people, and he’s really good at it. But when he asked his Goodwill job training class in San Francisco if they had ever been leaders, they were baffled. Some got angry. “How … Continue reading
What’s Your Motivation?
I used to lead a six-week self-management program for people with chronic conditions at a Kaiser Permanente hospital. Iris was 60 years old when she came to one of these classes. She was a short woman with straight black hair … Continue reading
More Meaningful Than We Know
Seven years ago, I was rescued by people who never knew they were saving me. That May, I was stressed out about finishing my first book, and trying to pay bills with free-lance writing gigs. Because of stress or for … Continue reading
Getting Involved
Acquaintances and casual friends are important, but they don’t make you wake up saying, “I can’t wait to see so-and-so today.” What keeps us going is close relationships with others. Many of us fear forming close relationships, because they inevitably … Continue reading
Senior Housing – Exile or ticket home?
Sometimes, what seems like exile to a desert island can actually be a ticket home. My friend Sylvia’s 82-year-old mother Mabel fought as hard as she could to stay in her suburban house. When poor health finally forced her to … Continue reading
Not Fearing Death
When I worked at Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco, I had an 82 year old cardiac patient named Wilson. First name Mel, but he preferred just “Wilson.” He was one of those classic crotchety old guys, wrinkled, with a … Continue reading