Partner – Sharing: Sex without the patriarchy

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Sex at Dawn

One reason for this fantasy and practice might be that partner sharing is a natural, healthy part of human sexuality. If modern, patriarchal, monogamous pairing is not how humans evolved to mate, we probably won’t be happy living that way.

Female sexual openness: the evidence

Ryan and Jetha provide chapters full of evidence to support the claim of multi-partner pairing in humans. Behaviorally, we see the well-known inability of most heterosexuals to be satisfied with monogamous relationships. Many of us are sneaking around or regretting that we can’t.

Why is sharing hot?

Even though partner-sharing has demonstrated social benefits, why is it an erotic fantasy? Why is it hot, and what do cuckolds get out of it? Writing on HealthLine, Adrienne Santos-Longhurst cites research “suggesting that watching your partner with another man prompts a biological response to have longer and more vigorous sex.” It’s a turn-on because it drives a man to compete.

Why isn’t partner-sharing more common?

If Ryan and Jetha are right, and monogamy is not natural for humans, why is it so dominant in modern cultures? It seems we can’t do what we evolved to do because our social structures don’t allow it.

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