They spend time in the Chinese community, but also in all kinds of other places. Jeffrey helped develop a solar panel company in an African-American neighborhood, which does job training for their young installers, getting them into the crafts unions. He works with aboriginal people in Botswana fighting to protect their land and culture. He goes into struggling nonprofit agencies and rescues them from financial mismanagement.
Rose is one of the premier networkers of San Francisco. She connects people from various communities and movements with each other and with resources. She can walk into a room full of strangers, and within a few minutes have connected two of them she hadn’t known before, and who hadn’t known about each other.
R and J are what I call “eclectic outsiders” or EOs. They aren’t central to any community or organization, but they are valuable contributors to many of them. My partner Aisha and I are EOs too, and the more I look, the more of them I see.
Good thing, too. Outsiders make the world a better place. Imagine a region with two tribes, clans, or ethnic groups who distrust and feud with each other, because of past conflicts or uneven political power. Think White and Black, Armenians and Turks, Hatfields and McCoys. People who are fully identified with their group, who fit right in with their families and neighbors, will be hostile and suspicious towards the other group, because that’s the cultural norm. When the fighting starts, they’ll pick up a gun.
But imagine that within each group there are some eclectic outsiders. The EOs will naturally tend to investigate the other group, to meet some of the EOs there, to appreciate some of their ways, possibly while rejecting others. They might become friends; they might become lovers. And they will teach any others in their group who are willing to listen that the “enemy” is really OK. They won’t make the real issues go away, but at least they create the possibility of resolving them.
EOs often bring back ideas, knowledge and technology from other groups. They’re the early adopters; the spreaders of innovation. In spite of the benefits their new ideas bring, they may be seen as threatening and may not have many friends within their own group.
Works for me – where do I sign up?
Since the second world war there has been a great movement of people across the globe, now estimated at 200 million living outside the country or nation of birth, so the unthinkable dilemmas arise, as told by BBC yesterday, How to Observe Ramadan fasting in the Arctic circle?
I have been fortunate to travel around the world on a regular basis, in fact I am always somewhere else, and I am grateful for the wonderful people I have met on the road, all of them so different from one another. I am a citizen of one country, maintain a home in another, but spend time in two other countries on a regular basis. Compartmentalization of ones lives, is what came to my mind when I read David’s blog. It is true my friends in Indonesia would be out of place in Havana, who would not fit in well with my friends in France, who would find it uneasy with the literary crowd of India.
One other disadvantage of being an EO, I might add, is that, many people would think that you are lying when you try to explain what is that you do …
Best wishes and Shalom
This article has helped me unload a pile of self-judgement that has accumulated over the years (that I never felt as a teenager, for some reason, even though I was a misfit then). Thanks a lot. I feel a lot freer now and will share the article with others!
I’ll link to this thoughtful post in the next Bayview Footprints Local News, David. It resonnates with me, absolutely!
Fascinating, David. I guess I am a semi-EO, as I have needed to fit in for various personal and professional reasons – but have always been comfortable with those outside my boxes. Whether generational, gender, racial/ethnic etc. I’m thinking we are the Gladwellian Connectors.
Oh, I liked this one. Never heard of the term “EO”, but seems like you nailed it, David.
Yes, I feel a bit exposed, having just been described to a “T”, but I’m comfortable with it by now, and, you’re right, it does make for an interesting life.
I was born an EO, on an island in the Caribbean, the only white baby in the hospital. But there are benefits: I am positive that I was definitely NOT switched at birth, and being an EO lends itself to being comfortable wherever and with whomever you find yourself.
Think of it as being just the opposite of ethnocentric, ahem.
I was at a conference in Anchorage the other day, listening to some authority on diabetes, talking something about statistical analysis. Something rose up in me and I commented in a room full of people, “You know, if we keep studying this without doing anything to actually help them, some day we may have no more diabetics left to study”.
I know you were there in spirit, and that’s what made me brave. Thanks for being you.
So, yes, being a Enigmatic Opportunist has its moments, but I wouldn’t trade it for all the tea in China. Chief Paul of Beaver says hi.
Donna, what is a Gladwellian Connector?
Nurse Tim, say hi to Chief Paul for me. I wrote about him briefly for a new book called Diabetes Heroes, about people reversing Type 2. I’ll send you and him copies when it comes out. I like your “Enigmatic Opportunist.”
Very good, looking forward to it, thank you. I will pass on your greetings to the Chief.
Comment on Outsiders article: Hmm, seems I’ve found a group I can fit in with at long last.
More seriously, I definitely identify with much of the “EO” profile. But I have also found in my life the benefits of identifying and joining a structured community that alligns with my interests and supports many of my core values. I’ve found that I can enrich my own life as well as make a sustained contribution as an “insider” because I have made a committment to the welfare of the group and the individuals in it. My group is a performing arts organization, grounded in another culture with a strong tradition of community and service, minus the oppressiveness and rigidity of organized religion. So I guess that makes me an “EI” – eclectic insider.
Fran, I agree with you that being an insider can be good, if you have the right group to be inside. You can only accomplish so much without really committing. We’re blessed to live in a time and place where so many options are available, and I’m glad you’ve found one that works for you.
I do think, though, that EO is an identity that can at least provide support and comfort, and that EOs have a valuable place, even if it is on the outside. Aisha and I are thinking of throwing a big picnic or party and inviting anyone who identifies. You will be invited when it happens.
Can I come too? I might feel at home there but probably not.
So insightful, David, thanks; that explains a lot. I’ve thought about the concept quite a bit (e.g., Alexis de Toqueville, Jacob Riis, Jacob Holdt), but never really applied it to myself.
Brook’s Minority:
Minorities will know more about majorities than majorities know about minorities and, sometimes, even more than majorities will know about themselves.